On the fence about doing a first look on your wedding day? Traditionally, couples would not see each other until start of the ceremony, building anticipation and excitement. However, a first look has grown in popularity as couples opt for an intimate, private reveal.
Having done hundreds of weddings over the years, here are some of the pros and cons I’ve seen when choosing to add a first look to your timeline.
Pros:
Intimate and Relaxed Moment:
A first look allows the couple to have a private, intimate moment together before the ceremony, potentially easing nerves and creating a more relaxed atmosphere for the bride and groom.
More Time for Photos:
You can schedule more time for the couple’s photos. Avoid rushing through these precious photos during cocktail hour (when you're also scheduled to take family and wedding party photos).
More Time with Guests:
By having portraits done before the ceremony, you can take those photos with the family and bridal party, then spend time with your guests during the cocktail hour! Some couples prefer to bustle the wedding dress or enjoy a quiet moment to themselves.
You Look Your Best
It makes sense to take the most important photos of the day right after you finish getting ready! You don’t have to be concerned about wind-blown hair or running mascara. You’ll take photos when everyone looks their best!
You Feel Your Best
Weddings can be overwhelming and exhausting! Many couples after the ceremony just want to grab a drink and enjoy the party. A first look allows you to take photos before all the chaos of the day.
Unique Photo Opportunities:
First looks still offer unique and emotional photo opportunities that capture the couple's reactions to seeing each other for the first time. We can also scout of the most beautiful locations at the venue instead of being limited to just the alter.
Cons:
Breaks Tradition:
Whether it's tradition or superstition, a first look deviates from the classic "waiting to see each other at the altar" moment. For many couples, this alone is reason enough.
Earlier Start Time:
If you're going to have a first look before the ceremony, you'll need to start your day MUCH earlier to accommodate the first look, portraits, and have time to get the bride tucked away before all the guests arrive!
Requires Coordination and Cooperation:
I can't tell you how many first looks have been scratched as a result of make up artists running behind schedule. ALL vendors have to coordinate and work together to ensure you are ready for the earlier start.
Potential for Nerves:
Some couples might find the first look to be even more stressful, as it adds another event to the already full wedding day timeline. The getting ready process can be hectic enough without the added pressure of being ready several hours before the ceremony start.
Potential for Less Dramatic Reveal:
One of you stands eagerly at the alter before dozens of family and friends. Your soulmate gracefully walks down the aisle as everyone fights back tears... I mean, that's magic! How do you recreate that!?!
Includes Guests
Waiting to see each other at the alter allows all of your friends and family to participate and witness your first look as well. While a first look may allow privacy, the disadvantage is that it leaves everyone else out.
Ultimately, the. decision to add a first look is about the couple’s preference. While there is no right or wrong choice, hiring a seasoned professional wedding photographer and videographer are important to ensure your entire wedding day runs smoothly.